I'll never forget my first exposure to Appreciate Inquiry from a good friend and mentor, an Estate Manager of the highest stature and respect in our industry, who personally taught me one of the most important lessons for career success: to seek out and capitalize on the best in others. "Jim, forget that the kid s**ts his pants," he'd counsel, drawing upon his own lessons when he'd been at my stage and yet, now and obviously, having moved far beyond, "and look at what this worker can DO, and how you can help him to do more of THAT."
He, in turn, had learned about this gem from someone just as seasoned in human resource management, who, in turn, had probably learned it from their own wise mentor. Many years later, while studying Organizational Behavior at University of San Francisco, I was reintroduced to this notion, yet again, known affectionately in academic circles as The Speed of Imagination, a speed which is always just at the right pace, for any size or shape of organization, including domestically staffed residences.
|This kid knows how to imagine what goes right!|
Guilty as charged, I thought today, as I gleefully pointed out to a colleague who'd sent me a domestic industry interview championing the cause of grammatically correct writings, which had contained an astonishingly large incorrect use of language, itself. Well, there!... I so gleefully reported back, and "they, 'to', got it wrong!" I thought... and worse, in an article talking about getting it all just right! My self-righteous euphoria lasting only a few sweet moments, I quickly realized I'd been (t)rotting down the wrong path and had to stop, and sooner rather than too later. Certainly, I had been right, yet who had become the better? Myself, for having been the one who threw the rock at the thrower? My colleague, who'd passed along the article to me? The author, whose credibility as a career writer could now be held in question based on one event? When traveling at the speed required for real interpersonal and professional success, the answer can only become: none of the above.
And, the process takes strong social ethics, because helping others along this journey we call life is simply the right thing for human beings to be doing.
The real question for domestic staff citizens becomes, then, not how do we get through
|A loser who can only jump 6 feet? Or a team|
member who can leap between tall mountains?
Which is your perspective - and how does it
affect those around you... and YOU?
To forget, for just one shining moment, about the misplaced wine glass, the resume gap, the mismatched sock, or the improper apostrophe, so that we may get up to speed where our lives are improved, as well as others.
To move into our future as a respected and real profession, we must learn to first rise above our own shortcomings and judgmental selves and to, as my mentor was fond of saying, to forget that the kid shits his pants and become witness to our own magical speed of imagination.
The kid in all of us can surely imagine it unfolding at this speed...