Tuesday, November 6, 2018

Obsessive Cleaning Anxiety Attacks: Now Available Online

Despite what you may have been led to believe, healthy normal adult social lives are now legal again and they have been pre-approved to be admitted to by the better employers to work for -  which are the very estates where domestic workers are able to be, ironically, the most "professional" and successfully employed.

I believe that we're living in interesting times, as the expression goes.  

Within the lifetimes of many people reading this posting, they have gone from (1970s) staying at home and waiting for the phone to ring, just in case an important call came through which they were expecting, to (1983) carrying a clunky single-tone pager the size of a pack of Marlboros on their belts, which allowed them to leave the house and then run to the nearest public payphone to return a call, to (2004) Blackberrys, where people began dipping their collective toes into the water of full accessibility across voice calls and emails, to (2010) an array of smart phones showing up which now keep much of the world's population connected 24/7  to their business associates and friends through voice, voicemail, texts, emails, photos, and videos from today of their pets on skateboards at Venice Beach - whether or not they like it - or even agree to it!

Social networking is here to stay - and it isn't as bad as you think. 

But yes, as we're now in that transition period between no one having all this stuff - and everyone having all this stuff - we still will hear remnants of the last generation, which is, truth be known, a significant portion of the current world's population. 

The biggest lesson I leaned, incidentally, in change management classes at University of San Francisco was this: change of any type, above all, is just plain hard work and often not achievable, as our brains are slow to adapt to new environments of any type and people will consistently do irrational things to keep change from occurring, even if the change in question benefits themselves - and even if they know it.  

Ironically, somewhat popular in some HR cultures, though, is to tell candidates they must curtail their social media coverage, all in the name of keeping their career prospects above water and maintain a 24/7 at-work "professional" fake image. I'm not really sure how this started, other than I suppose it's comforting on some level to stop change and make others stop it as well in order to validate the perceived fear of people finding out who we really are, but as with most things which are fear-based, it just started as it did, and the fire just kept growing and glowing out of control.

They say sharing our lives on the Internet can lead to bad things. Too much information in the hands of the wrong people can hurt us. That sounds pretty bad, huh?  Well, I'm here to prove you wrong.  - Victor Balasa

And yet, like all fires, this too shall pass. This fear of this change will eventually subside and the authenticity of being ourselves will once again returns to peoples' everyday lives, which is now, in 2018, normal and healthy to express online.  

By 2020, I predict that we'll all look back at the frenzy over having our normal lives expressed online, and we'll realize these anxiety attacks were even sillier than burning the Beatles' albums back in 1966 (well, except for Rubber Soul -  I never liked that one very much anyway and didn't miss it being gone for a while).


Dramatic obsessive cleaning anxiety attacks are no longer
necessary in order to become a "professional" domestic worker.
A colleague in domestic service alerted me recently that he'd decided to, in order to supposedly remain employable, wipe "clean" all of his social media past which, frankly, only showed him at his most human form and in life's ordinary enjoyable moments with other humans, which he was concerned others would think of as "dirty."  

And so for him, "clean" meant that, normal behaviors which are the same as 99.950% of the world's population has regularly engaged in, he'd erase any evidence of this humanity, just in case, I suppose, the owners of the company he should find himself suddenly working for one day in the unknown future was ruled by the .050% excluded in the above overwhelming demographic estimate. 
His plan was to erase everything expect for his dreary grey-as-dust LinkedIn profile, and even then to work on it some more, to make sure it was even drearier than the image he thinks he will need to succeed, as in, a depressed and dour domestic from the movies kind of dreary; an image he thinks he'll need to keep up and put great stock into, to keep himself employed on estates which, he presumes, will want a depressed and dour and ready to suicide at any moment Majordomo, one in which he perplexedly kept referring to as "professional."  I don't think there's anything "professional" about this at all, however; I think he's only suffering from an obsessive cleaning anxiety attack and having it in a rather up-to-date and fashionable 2018 manner - online.

But erase his authentic past and present, he did. 

Just one or two clicks, that's all it took.

His authentic past and his authentic self... gone.


Adult normal social activity and affection is healthy -
 not "dirty" or shameful - and it doesn't need to be 
"cleaned" from your past, present, or future.
I can't speak for others. But I do know this: I would never hire or recommend anyone, for any domestic service staff position, that I could not verify as having had a normal, healthy, and fully functioning human experience background.  

Truthfully, it would just creep me out if the only information I could find online of my Nanny candidate was that of spending her spring break from college sitting alone at night at a public library wooden table under fluorescent lights and brushing up on trigonometry, instead of rolling around on the sand with her friend or exploring some such similar enjoyment of life, like the majority of normal people have done and continue to do since time began, whenever they've have some time to unwind and/or celebrate life's achievements or simply, well, just celebrate life and being alive, itself.

Because, that's what normal functioning human beings do, and it's simply comforting to be around normal people. 

Normal people go out and they have fun, just like you see in their FaceBook photos. And normal human beings grow up - and grow forward - having developed an emotional IQ which helps them to perform very well on service work teams.

Normal human beings celebrate life. Normal human beings enjoy their lives, they often have a drink on vacation and share photos of this with their normal human friends, and they become intimately and consentingly physical with each other, as well. 

And not just for the spring break younger crew, that's also what normal older adults do with their own desires from time to time. None of these normal, healthy and social activities are "dirty," none of such photos of celebrations of life are credibly able to be relied upon to determine if a worker is an alcoholic or will be distracted and out of control toward co-workers they may find to be sexually attractive, and none of them need to be "cleaned" from candidates' past, present, or future selves. 

What's only shameful and dirty is this: to lie your way through an application process or to be fake about your own normal and healthy social background. 

And so, if lying and deleting normal, healthy social human experiences and faking yourself on social media or interviews or resumes or anywhere else starts to become routine behavior for you, I can guarantee that one day you'll have bigger problems in life then not getting hired for a job.


Worth considering is this: When Facebook or other online photos of candidates celebrating very ordinary and normal adult events in their personal lives are  relied upon to decipher and then attempt to differentiate between good and poor workplace professional character traits, if such an analysis could be accomplished at all, would require, in Citizen Editor's humble opinion, the following skills at a minimum from those persons making such judgments:
  • Critical thinking skills - an ability to gather sufficient information from multiple sources and piece it together accurately and without relying on (and/or spreading) domestic industry gossip.
  • Rational and mature judgement, based on long-term experiences in Human Resource Management - a skill more uncommon than many people outside of the full-time HRM career field will often be aware of.
  • Higher-scale emotional and intellectual IQs - as measured by independent third parties in proctored settings, not simply online self-assessments or high opinions of oneself.
  • Academic (MS/PhD) education and (current) professional State-issued license credentials in psychology with a specialization in substance abuse counseling, along with, additionally, an ability to sidetrack ones own personal bias against social drinking or dating due to personally held conservative religious or other personal or traumatic social experience issues which are causing oneself to be resentful and dismissive of candidates' normal, healthy adult social lives as being "dirty."
  • Stable mental function which precludes any bias based upon the observers' own predisposition to suffering from obsessive cleaning anxiety attacks themselves, otherwise, they should withdraw their participation in determining if a domestic service candidate is appropriate for the position.

And so despite what you may have been led to believe, healthy normal adult social lives are now legal again and they have been pre-approved to be admitted to by the better employers to work for -  which are the very estates where domestic workers are able to be, ironically, the most "professional" and successfully employed.
News Flash:  Normal adult social lives are now legal again. 

So, think carefully before having an obsessive cleaning anxiety attack and fabricating an inauthentic, unusually dreary and suspiciously fake "clean" personal background.

Worth considering also is that astute background private investigators - the type who actually meet and speak with real live humans from your real live human background - as opposed to the popular online $29.95 background checks which many domestic agencies and estate owners misguidedly place their faith in - will typically not experience very much comfort if they discover you've chosen to hide your authentic self and pose as a non-human robotic entity, and will often react to such fakery by suggesting the family office put your resume through the cross-cut shredder faster than you can say: 

"Honestly, I've never even been to Cancun."

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